Monday, October 8, 2007

I am anxious!


My mum is going in for a surgery. It’s called a hysterectomy. For those who don’t know, a hysterectomy is an operation to remove a woman's uterus (womb).
You may be asking why she needs this surgery. Well its cos she’s had a prolapsed uterus for some years now. I don’t really know how to explain it but I guess it’s a situation where the muscles of the womb kinda collapse or something, the uterus moves from its usual place down into the vagina leading to urinary problems, pelvic pressure, or difficulty with bowel movements.. Now don’t ask me what causes it cos I don’t know!
She ought to have had this surgery ages ago but she is so so scared. I don’t blame her; it’s not me going in for the surgery but am also really scared. My mum has got high blood pressure and there is a risk of patients with that condition to slip into a coma during surgical procedures. I actually lost a friend earlier this year in a similar situation. She had gone in for a caesarean section, the operation was successful and she had birthed the baby only to slip into a coma. The doctors’ explanation was something about a cardiac arrest caused by her high blood pressure. Anyway back to my mum cos that’s who this post is all about.

She woke me up very early one morning some weeks back to say she was ready to go ahead with the operation. To say I was surprised is saying the least. I enquired what brought about the sudden decision to go ahead with the operation and she said she had thought it through and was sure it was the best thing for her since the prolapsed womb gave her a lot of discomfort.
I spoke with a doctor pal who recommended a gynaecologist somewhere in Yaba reputed to be one of the best hands in the field. We met with him, she ran some tests and the surgery was scheduled to be performed today-Monday the 8th of October.

Now, you are probably wondering if she is in the theatre already. No she isn’t! I don’t know if it was a case of cold feet again or what but she called the doctor last Friday to ask that the surgery be moved upwards by a week. Her excuse was that she had malaria and wanted to treat that first before the surgery. So now the surgery has been moved to next week Monday the 15th.

Last Saturday morning, a new twist to this whole surgery business came up.
You see, my mum is a dreamer, as in her dreams usually come to pass. I got that gift from her too but mum wears the crown when it comes to dreaming. I remember once, when I was still in the university. I had fought with this girl during the semester (Not that I am a fighter o! It was one of the few occasions I ever fought in my life. For the record, I detest fighting! I used to live off campus in this compound with some other girls and there was this particular group of babes who felt threatened by my presence. Dem dey vex say na only me the coolest bobos dey find come, lol! Maybe I will blog about these babes and some of their theatrics some time soon). The babe had given me the first slap and there was no way I was going to let it go without retaliating, na so fight come take start o! Anyway I got back home that semester break and the morning after my return during the usual morning devotion, mum had looked at me and asked: “Who did you fight with in school?” I looked at her with my mouth wide open wondering how in God’s name she got to find out that I had fought in school. Initially I thought someone had told her but then I wondered who it could possibly me as my brother who was in the same school as me didn’t even know about the fight. She went on to tell me how she had seen me in a dream fighting with a girl and all that. Meeen! Since dat day I began to respect mumsie and her dreams o! And that’s just one of her very many dreams that has turned out to be true.

Okay so back to Saturday. It turns out that the previous night (Friday night); mum had another one of her dreams. In this dream she had climbed up a height and when she wanted to come down, there was no way for her to. The steps disappeared and in its place was a slippery tiled wall that was impossible to climb down. She pleaded with some people she saw up there that her husband was down the road waiting for her and she needed to go down and meet him but they told her that it was not possible for anyone to leave that place. She was still contemplating jumping down at the risk of breaking her limbs when she woke up from the dream.

Again she slept and had another dream. This time she was with her mother(My late grandma) and they were seated at the back row in a church where a burial service was being held. Her family members were all in the church and she and grandma were commenting on the type of ‘gele’ (headscarf) one of her sisters had on.

She awoke from sleep that morning very anxious and as she told me the dreams, I couldn’t help contracting some of the anxiety too. I mean with my mum’s dream history, who wouldn’t be??? I have told her that maybe we need to rethink the whole surgery idea cos me I never ready to lose my mama yet. She has to be present at my wedding and see her grandchildren first before anything else abeg!

She is anxious. The whole family is worried. It’s like we are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea here. Is it better for her to just go on living with the discomfort of the prolapsed womb or to risk it with the surgery? What do you think guys?

One thing I know for sure is this: I don’t want to lose my mum, Not yet!
God forbid bad thing o!!!


65 comments:

Mommy said...

I'm first! I'm first!! You caaaaan't catch me! Nah nah nah nah nahhhhhhh!

femme said...

hi prinsessa,
unfortunately, im not big on dreams but being anxious is understandable.
since u are christian, you are lucky because you dont need options, you can pray and also make sure you get her the best doctors.
im sure she will be fine.

Mommy said...

See me fooling around because of position.
How are you sweetheart? I see how anxious you are. With those type of dreams it would be really difficult to go about that operation oh! And to think that the dreams are so direct. Me I don't know what to say o cos me ma fear. And mehn the sweetest thing about marriage and childbirth is having your parents (especially momsie) around. I would like to know however how long she has been having these pains and discomforts. And besides, don't you have faith? There is nothing more 'ghen ghen' than prayer. I believe 100% in prayers when I get in such 'impossible' situations. It is well with your mum, darling. Let me start firing prayers for her on your behalf. Don't force her. If she has one more dream abeg fashi the operation. If by next week she shows strength and courage, then back up her going into that theater with prayers. She will come out hale and hearty.
Kai...I talk too much. I hope I helped there sha!! Take care ok!!

Arewa said...

Just pray for yuor mum and be strong.She needs your strength and support to see this operation through..do not let ur fears get the best of u God is in control.
I will be praying for u and ur mum...{{Big Hug}}

36 INCHES OF BROWN LEGS said...

Have faith babes.... ur mum will be fine.

princesa said...

@mommy, lol! Femme almost got you there sha!
Thanks so much for your comment mommy.I agree that prayer is the only option here. My mum has started with the prayers, thanks for your prayers too love.

@femme, thanks too for ur comment.They say the doctor is very good so i guess all that's left is to pray!

@arewa. Thanks for the hug dear.

@36inches,Amen.

Aijay said...

I would be so worried too, especially with those dreams.
You just have to put your trust in God cos He never goes wrong.
Don't worry dear, I'll be praying for your mum.

PS: Where's Manda?

Ejura said...

This is so complicated. Is it possible these series of dreams this time are born out of fear? You know sometimes it does happen-when fear takes over and shows up even in your dreams.

Let's take a stand on faith. There's nothing God cannot do. He can bring down her blood pressure and use the surgeon's hands.

I'll be praying with you. Love to your ma.

Friend of God said...

Mum will be fine in Jesus name.

Arewa said...

U r always welcome hon.. what r BLOGVILLE 'friends'for?.....x x x
:o)

Ugo Daniels said...

Nothing's gonna happen to ya momsie in Jesusu name...Amen!!

Weird dream, really!!

Just have faith, pray hard and together, we in blogville will celebrate with you the successful surgery with toasts to longer life and good health

Be well...

princesa said...

@aijay,thanks too sweet. Manda?? I wish i knew! I called her tho and she sounds ok, says she's been out of office.

@ejura, its possible that they are borne out of fear.I believe in the power of God to make all things well. Thanks for the encouragement.

@FOG, Amen.
@arewa,for sharing dear. thanks for the love.

princesa said...

@UgoD, Amen to that o! I appreciate dude.

shosho said...

I think whatever you place your faith in will be true for you. If you truly believe the surgery will go well and your mom does too, everything will be fine, regradless of the dream. Our faith is much much bigger than the things we see (even realistic dreams in 3d technicolour :-)). I would hate to live under a perpetual illness/discomfort because i was too afraid to grab freedom with both hands. Best wishes.

Mrs Somebody said...

Pretty princesa.....Be Strong and take courage,do not fear or be dismayed.Trust God to handle this situation for you.It is well with your mum.You need to be strong for her.Faith is all you need to overcome.Like our beloved 2face would say.....nothing dey happen.

Sparkle said...

You guys should just believe and pray A LOT about it...your mom will be fine in Jesus name...and keep giving her those encouraging words..cos u don't want her to be depressed right now...the only answer is prayer...just keep praying...I'll say a prayer for her too
she'll be fine....take care

Mrs Somebody said...

pretty princesa.....contrary to the title of this post,please read philippians 4 :6-7.

princesa said...

@shosho, so true. Thanks.
@Mrs somebody,thanks dearie! You found time to come here from stalking CWG's blog! Great!!
Nothing dey happen o jare!

princesa said...

@sparkle,am going home right now to give her some encouraging words.

@everyone,Thanks for making everything seem better. God bless you all.

s.chic said...

Hey babes, Abeg don't worry too much, like everyone else has said, if you believe in God, then pray your way through it... a little faith and reminding God of his promises to both you and your mother will help you through this period...she just may not need the surgery...God dey!!

Atutupoyoyo said...

It is a difficult predicament my dear but I believe on this case it is momsi's subconscious fears that are driving the dreams rather than them being a premonition.

The operation itself is actually a routine one and there is nothing to fear. You just need to make sure she goes to a reputable hospital with an experienced surgeon. A life of comfort and enjoyment beckons for your mom along with her children, grand children and even great grandchildren sef. It is well.

Mrs Somebody said...

I'm Back.Infact ehn....mumsie will do omugwa for you 8 times.Just you alone-o.Not to talk of your other siblings.Be comforted.
God only recognizes faith not fear.
It is well with you and yours.



Before you call me a blog terrorist I only came back here to let you know that I've updated my blog.Can I go and stalk Callywaffybabe's blog now?

meanwhile you owe a certain 'someone' a call/textmessage.
You promised him u'd get in touch.

ekwitux said...

I know people who've been thru same procedure and have come out fine. So have faith girl.

I also recently lost a friend to CS procedure, is it possible we have same friend?

Naapali said...

Princesa, your anxiety and that of your mom is understandable. Hysterectomies are relatively routine. I recall assisting on one as a medical student in an 84 y/o woman who also had a uterovaginal prolapse. She did well.

I do not know what the preoperative care in Naija is like but have a few questions/suggestions. You mentioned your mom has high blood pressure. Is it controlled with her medication? i.e does her BP run less than 140/90? Does she have any other medical problems? e.g diabetes, declining kidney function (as measured by a blood creatinine test). Is your mom physically active? i.e. is she able to walk up two flights of stairs carrying shopping bags without complaining of chest pain or chest pressure or shortness of breath?
If her BP is well controlled, and she has no other medical problems, can exert herself without discomfort then she should be able to tolerate the surgery pretty well. I would also suggest you meet the anesthetist, discuss options regarding anesthesia. Taking these steps may help allay some of the anxiety you both feel.
I wish you both well.

AN IBO DUDE'S CORNER said...

Dont worry my dear, you wont lose your mom, at least not anytime soon. God has heard your prayers and she will be there for your wedding and alo hold her grand kids. As for the operation, abeg make una pray well well before she go for the thing ooo. This one wey she be "nostradamus"

princesa said...

@S.chic,thanks. I dont know about not needing the surgery though.That would mean a miracle to restore her womb abi? God, Remember you promise o!

@atutupoyoyo, am also beginning to feel that its her subconscious now.I claim that prayer o! She shall carry her great grand children indeed!

@mrs somebody,lol! Babes now you don make me fall in love with you!
Omugwo 8 times?!?! kai! that would mean me going to the maternity ward 8 times, haba... E too much na!
Thanks for making me see the light side of things dearie.
My God! You no go forget that inmate?!?!
Go on stalker!

princesa said...

@ekwitux, am having faith dear. Thanks.
@naapali, thanks doctor for that comment. To answer ur questions,
Her bp is controlled with medication though sometimes it runs higher than 140/90. No she doesnt have diabetes or declining kidney function.She is also physically active.i have spoken to her doctor and he says there is nothing to fear.
Thanks again.

@anibodude, lol@nostradamus. Thanks dude!

Nyemoni said...

surgeries can be such a scare, can't they? Don't worry. your mum will be alright...Just have faith in God and everything will come to a successful conclusion...It is well with you, your mum and your family..Have faith my dear, do not fret...

pamelastitch said...

don't worry your mother will be alright. Hysterectomy aren't that risky. She is in the best hands in the field.
I will keep her in my prayers....

pammy

stuck in my throat o said...

it is not an easy operation...my mum says she is scared of anything to do with her womb because she will feel like less of a woman...my youngest bro is 22...wetin she wan use the womb for?

try to support your mum..remind her that The Lord is perfect in all His doings..she needs to have the surgery to save her life...

Chika said...

This is so sad....u have to stay strong for your mumm and just pray for guidance so God will show you the right thing to do.It is well my dear!

fantasy queen said...

i ve that weird thing of dreaming about stuff thhat later comes to play and i'm like dejavu?...
but sometimes fear and worry creeps into our subconcious minds and that brings about dreams that play out like our fear sees them
anyway the whole piont here is to remain optimistic in the midst of ur worry and pray...prayer works wonders. i'll be sure to pray with u.

Ejura said...

So you think that car dasher was smart abi?

I honestly won't mind it happening to me sha...

Thanks for the add girl. Have a great day!

Obi said...

Pray pray pray...
All is well jare...!!

Sparkle said...

You must have the picture on the web..from there u will get a code...do u have a PHOTOBUCKET account?...if not... create an account on photobucket.com OR send the picture to me and I'll just send u d code...from there I'll tell u what to do...

princesa said...

@Nyemoni, pammy, chika, fantasy queen,
Thanks babes!

princesa said...

@stuck, does ur mum have a prolapsed womb too??

@ejura,who dem go put sugar for im mouth wey go spit am out eh?
Definitely not moi!

@Obi, yes, yes yes!!!

@Sparkle,i go just send u the pic o! Thats ur turf babes.

bighead said...

This one hard pass Jamb o! On a serious note though, I think yu guys should pray seriously about it. Some say dreams are supposed to make yu do that. I believe (and hope) if the surgery would turn out bad, your prayers will alert yu guys somehow and hopefully ur mum would be healed too, killing both birds with one stone.

CATWALQ a.k.a LAGBA-JESS said...

Implied death in the dream does not always mean death in the physical.
What is death but the shedding of the old and used body. Thus, she is planning to have something taken out of her that has bothered her for quite a while. She is shedding an old and used pain. It no longer is for her. But her fear is preventing her from taking the next step. She wants to return to her comfort zone where she recognises and understands what is happening...

ask her what things she has allowed into her life because of her condition. Does she eat only one type of food, visit only one type of place, pray only one type of way just because she is looking for a non-intrusive solution to what she is growing throuh.

Your mom sounds like an enlightened soul. Tell her to pray and ask for a clearer sign. Tell her to pick a symbol that for her will represent an indication for her to go forward. I will suggest something she does not see all the time, like an animal not indigenous to where she lives or a person she has not seen in a long time. Prayer is always the key to deciphering your dreams.

Why r you panicked? We fear losing our loved ones because in our subconscious we feel/ know that we have not given the best of our love to them. Now is for you to be there for her. Keep her calm. Keep your eyes open. She might also not need the surgery.

PS: I have only addressed the dream based on my own thinking. I have not interpreted it. I cannot do that. Even if I could, it would not be my spiritual right to do so. At least not in a forum like this

princesa said...

@bighead, thanks dude!
And that ur driver application cracked me up bigtime. Love your attitude!

@catwalq, looooong one girl!
I like ur perspective to the whole dream issue.
Thanks for that comment.

AMAZONIA said...

wow, well i can definetly empathise with your anxiety. But if its a necessarys sugery i wish your mother all the best. And i am sure all must go well. there is no other way you shoul dlook at it.. take care

princesa said...

@amazonia, thanks.

tee said...

i pray she is fine. it is well dearie.

Olamild said...

It is well with your mum
It shall be well with you as well
Have no worries
God is in control

Sisbee said...

Darlin' your mum will be fine. One of the causes of a prolapse is giving birth to you! we sould be grateful to mum's.Hope you missed me.

princesa said...

@tee& olamild thanks dears.
@sisbee, awwwh darling! Missed u like crazy!!
Why the looong silence??
Pls dont go MIA again o!

Rinsola said...

It is well with your mum, she'ld come out great. God dey, just let Him handle ur anxiety. Let's hear the good news okay?

Afrobabe said...

Fuck, when did you post this that it has so much comments with no space among the first ten for your fav reader...hmmmmm

About your mum, I understand your fears but leave it all to God, its not by power but by his will...She will live to see your children and children's children...

diary of a G said...

I don't know what to say but I pray your mum will be okay by God's grace

cally-waffybabe said...
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Stronger Truth said...

A close friend of mine (much, much, MUCH older)and a co-cowker has had it done and she healed gracefully. I'm sure your mom will be okay. But i understand that you're anxious. She'll be fine

stuck in my throat o said...

no she doesn't, but my aunt had to have a similar surgery and she put fear into everyone...but this was 27yrs ago...she is alive and well..like your mum will be..

30+ said...

Your mum will be fine in Jesus name

Mommy said...

Sweetheart!! How are you and your mum doing today? Keeping faith ehn!! It is well ok! Cheers!

NikkiSab said...

Princesca nnwannee, It is well. Just pray for your mom and ax God to take complete Control. Dont forget to tell HIM how much u luv her and dat u want her to come back to u, let HIM know. I'm praying for her too dear.

Omosewa said...

Errrm odikwa risky o. It could be fear induced nightmares or a warning from God.I say she should take her time o, its better to be alive with a little discomfort than otherwise. My mom was to go in for surgery one time, men i cldnt eat or sleep, i was scared shitless, but then shes a dreamer too and she dreamt that God said everything will be fine, and we all relaxed, but she didnt need the surgery anymore sef, false alarm,lol. Sha my mom is a medical doctor and she can hook you up with someone who's really good at doing this, so if you ever want a second opinion, i'll give you her number and all. Sha, in all things we give thanks, it is well. How u doing fine girl?

Labelle said...

wow! Tad bit scary but remember to put your trust and faith in God. He's faithful and loyal enough to keep all His promises with us. I wish you all the best and I have faith things will go well.

princesa said...

@rinsola,thanks dear. You will definitely hear the good news.

@afrobabe, lol! Where have you been babe?!?! I say Amen to that o!

@DOG, thats enough said dude. Thanks.

@CWG, Thanks love! Sorry about ur baby...that was really terrible!!!
On the offer, i REALLY appreciate, but the doctor she is seeing here is equally good so lets just pray and hope for the best.

princesa said...

@stronger truth, thanks for the reassurance.

@Stuck ,thanks so so much!

@30+, Amen!

@mommy,we are doing fine and keeping faith too. Thanks for the support dear.

@nikki nwannem, Awwh! Ur prayer means so much to me babe.

@labelle, scary abi but am not scared anymore. Am sure things will be fine.

princesa said...

@omosewa love, Thanks for offering to help. Glad for ur mum not needing the surgery. I dont know yet...will holla if i need ur mum's no.

The Last King Of Scotland said...

she will be fine, God is in control

Queen of My Castle said...

OMG! I'm late...VERY late.

I agree, she will be just fine. If it's any consolation, my mother has had a hysterectomy and she's just fine, though she still suffers from the symptoms of PMS. Weird, huh?

You guys are in my prayers

Love ya babes!

Awoof said...

Oh dear... What words of comfort can I possibly offer? I have none for now, but I can promise you that even though I don't know you, and this is the first time I'm ever writing in your blog, I'll remember her in my prayers tonight. God bless.

unshined congo said...

everything will be fine by the grace of God. God is in control. he is ur strength.ur mum will be fine. just put it in prayers and he will surely answer. take care of urself and her too..

princesa said...

@TLKS, thanks. Am sure she will.

@castle queen, thanks its does make me feel better to know that.Thanks sweetie, love ya too!

@awoof, thanks for that sweet comment. Welcome to my blog...hope you drop by again.

@unshined congo, thanks dear. Bless your soul.