Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Una Weldone o...I still dey.

My people, una welldone o!
I know its been quite a while I was here but I have really been busy with planning my elder brother’s wedding, his wife has had to be in job training all this while and can only get out on Thursday(tomorrow) so yours truly has been doing all the running around(it’s almost as if I am the one who is wedding) not to add my ever demanding job.
Thankfully the wedding is this weekend. I can’t wait for it to be done and over with so I can commence my well-deserved holiday. Am thinking of doing Abidjan instead of Accra, not sure yet though.

My leave starts tomorrow and it’s supposed to last for 3weeks even though my boss has been seriously insisting that I go for only 2 weeks. I have told him that one no fit happen o! This girl needs a break abeg! God forbid, if anything happens to me tomorrow, work continues abi?

Sadly I won’t be able to spend so much time on my vacation cos I have to be back in Naija before the 8th of November. Got two cousins who are wedding on that day and both of them have been threatening thunder and brimstone if I don’t show up at their ceremony. How I want take divide myself into two now? I no know o! They are not even happening in the same town so I can’t even attend the church ceremony of one and the reception party of the other.
God help me,lol!

Sorry I got to cut this post short cos I got lots to attend to. You know today’s my last day at work before my leave and it’s almost as if Mr. Boss wants to take all he can get out of me before I go.

Catch y’all larer!

PS: On a last note, na wa for some peeps o! Sometime ago, I left a comment a blogger’s comment section telling him to e-mail me cos we needed to talk about something only to see a mail in my inbox today( told y’all I haven’t been online in ages) from one strange person asking me what my relationship with the blogger was.
No so possessiveness level don reach now? Abeg o! Miss strange lady, if you are reading (cos I sure say u go don trace me come my blog) nothing dey between us o(Not that I even owe you an explanation). My armpit dey clean,lol!

One advice tho, pls do something about ur insecurities, it aint sexy!

Thursday, October 2, 2008


Lol! Just kidding before some people begin vex. I heart you all jare, wetin I go do without una?

So what’s good people?
It’s been a really looooooooooooooong minute since I last posted or even had time to read posts. It is not deliberate tho cos if I had my way, I would probably be on blogger every minute of the day but C├ęst nes pas possible!(NDQ, I try abi?lol!).
I get so busy(and tired) at times that writing even the shortest post is almost impossible. These days, I’m beginning to ask myself if am actually cut out for a Nine-five job. Now,don’t get me wrong, I really do love my job but I know the conditions could still be better. Anyway, God dey. I know he has so many great plans to perfect in my life and soon they will start to manifest. Amen!

Thank God for the Sallah and Indepence holidays. I had the much needed rest I desperately craved. My body was almost getting used to the whole waking up by 10am in the morning that it was very difficult dragging it out of bed this morning. If I had my way, the holiday should have lasted up till the weekend. Lazy bones, yea yea,lol!

So I'm going on a well deserved work leave very soon(30+, shout Alleluya!). It’s about time jare, I need it badly. Am thinking of traveling to Ghana. Everyone seems to be traveling there these days. Why is this so sef? Is it cos it’s a cheaper alternative than heading to the Carribeans? Or is it truly a traveler’s delight? Make una tell me o.
Anyway, I have never been there before and as I no get money to go Carribean abi na Bahamas(YES! That is my reason,lol!), I go settle for Ghana at least that will mean One more African country visited. I just hope it is as nice as is touted by people who have been there.
So is anyone interested in a Trip to Ghana in the middle of October? It will be cool to have company. If there are up to ten interested people, we could actually hire a tour bus from one of these transport companies and make it a fun road trip. What say u guys? Anyone up for adventure? Hit me up!

There is something, I struggle to understand up till now and that is the issue of Wife battery. No matter how much I try to rationalize it, I still can’t fathom why a man would take delight in practicing his boxing skills on his poor wife who he promised to love and cherish on God’s altar and in the presence of other people.
I choose to see it as a lack of self esteem and honour in such a man. He who lays his hands on a woman is not worthy to be called a man, period!

Funny enough, you find some single men, well advanced into their forties who when they finally decide to settle down, decide to pick a small 20 years old girl to marry. Why do they do this? Well most times, because they want someone they can bully around. Someone who will address them as Sir! Someone who will kneel down to greet them when they return from work. Someone who cannot speak out her mind for fear of being dashed one slap. That is the kind of wife they want. Tell me why else would a 40 something years old man go and marry a 19 year old girl? Love? Spare me!

There is this young lady in my church choir. Very pretty lady. I won’t say we are friends but we are kinda close. She is around 31 years and married. I always assumed she was recently married and maybe had a kid or two but she informed me sometime last week that she had five kids(her first daughter is 12). She had gotten married when she was only 19 years. I was stunned and could only mouth “WOW” as I looked at her in wonder. You couldn’t tell by her physique that she had a child not to talk of 5. Some peeps are really blessed.

Anyway, to get to the main Koko of the gist.
A few days ago, at practice, I noticed she had this blood spot in her right eye. LG, you know that kind of blood spot you got when you got into a fight with Fineboyagbero? You understand now abi? Okay. LOL!!!!
So the first thought that came to my head when I noticed her eye was “Ha! I hope this nice lady does not have a wife batterer for a husband?” That kind of bruise is usually gotten from a hard blow or slap to the face.
At first I didn’t want to ask but I guess my curiosity got the better of me(yes, I can be a gbegborun like that, Call it my journalistic tendencies,lol!).
So after choir practice, I asked her “Sister, what happened to your eye?
“Oh my eye? It’s my little kid o. He mistakenly put his finger in my eye” She replied.
I nodded. I didn’t quite buy the story but I didn’t prod further, wetin be my own? I just hoped she was telling the truth. I would really hate for her to be a wife battery victim.

Sadly, a lot of women are going through hellish marriages but they would rather die in silence than speak out. They prefer to present the picture of the perfect family to outsiders so they endure the physical and mental abuse rather than leave the marriage.
May God help them.

So Thabo Mbeki, South African President has resigned from office. Good for South Africans.
I only wish this resignation fever can catch some of our good-for-nothing leaders here in Naija. I havn’t ever heard of a Nigerian politician who voluntarily resigned out of office. Even when everyone is clamouring for them to leave, they prefer to sit tight and wait till they are forced out. Take the case of Former Madam speaker, Etteh for example. Not until someone died in teh house did she decide to resign. People and power!

In my office, the resignation fever seems to be spreading too. Just last month, two of our staff resigned. I don’t have any problem with anybody leaving o. After all if me sef I see better place, I go go. The only problem I have is the manner in which they left.

The first one to go- Our receptionist came to me one Friday afternoon to ask for her Video CD. She had lent it to me a few days before but I hadn’t gotten round to seeing it. It was one of them Naija comedy Show videos and I had planned to relax myself with it over the weekend.

I told her I was yet to watch it and would do so over the weekend and return it to her on Monday morning. She refused, saying she too wanted to watch it over the weekend. I said “Haba, but you have seen it before now?” She replied “I know but I want to watch it again this weekend. I’ll give it to you on Monday morning”. I gave her back the VCD only to resume work on Monday to learn that she had resigned the previous Friday.
I was shocked. Why couldn’t she plainly tell me she had resigned and wanted her VCD back cos she wasn’t coming back to the Office. Why pretend about it? We didn’t have any issues as in we were friendly up till she left so why the secrecy? After all it’s not like I was going to stop her from leaving.

They second guy to leave was the guy I shared an office with. We were on cordial terms so I don’t understand why he couldn’t tell me he was resigning. I only learnt about it from my boss a few days before he left. I chose not to ask him anything. I mean, since he decided not to tell me about it, e beta to leave am like that.

Anyway, I guess they have their reasons for leaving the way they left abi?
Na only dog sabi wetin dey scratch am for ear.