Friday, September 7, 2007

What works...with guys!


Hey guys! Wat’s da dilly yo!
I don’t have time to give you any gist so I decided to put this up.
Let's face it, We babes all want to look sexy sometimes. And whether you're into a vintage style, or the full-on va-va-voom, we have to wonder, what do guys notice? If you ever wanted to know about men's preferences—like whether your Manolos even register on his Richter scale—here's your definitive guide. In this excerpt from The Manual, you'll find out for sure what men find sexy.
I hope you babes find it interesting and for the guys, I’ld like to know if all this is really true.
I must warn you, this is really loooong so read on if you’ve got time.

What Men Notice When They First Meet You
From highlights to heels, guys reveal what works--and what doesn't
by Steve Santagati


Attention to vanity will seem shallow at times, but in the game of love, it's very important. Most people I see are lazy in this department. And, not surprisingly, these are the same people who complain, saying things such as “People are so superficial,” “I want him to love me for what's inside,” or “I hate the gym.” Well, no one is telling you that you can't dress as you choose. But when you put those constraints on yourself, you're limiting the number of men who will find you attractive. In the end, meeting the right person is a numbers game, and part of getting those numbers rolling is how you dress.

A Woman's Closet, Designed by Men
Lingerie
Lingerie can be inexpensive, but it can't be the kind that comes in a package of three (white, pink, and blue). Nor can it be the “granny” kind with a waist that reaches up to you rib cage and that hangs like a diaper. Lingerie is one garment that you should find as sexy as he does. And it benefits you, too. Women have told me that when they wear nice underwear, even though no one may see it, they will actually walk and talk differently, just knowing they have a little sexy secret. If lingerie can do that to a woman—and we already know how it affects men—then don't you think you should go out and get yourself some? You have tons of choices, and when it comes to lingerie, men like just about anything.

Shoes
Again, we don't care. We know you like them. We don't understand why you like them. All we know is that many of you have closets full of them, and we've figured out that since you spend so much time and money on them, we can compliment them to flatter you. That's about it.
Most likely, if a guy tells you what nice shoes you have, he's either gay or “working on you.” My friend Mari recently told me that a guy came up to her in the airport and complimented her on new shoes. She's so sweet that she thought he meant it. I'm not saying that they're not nice shoes. But have you ever heard a man say, “Well, the thing that caught my eye was Shirley's shoes. I love those pumps, and when I saw them I knew she was the woman for me”? I don't know a single male who would say, “Dude, this chick had the hottest shoes on last night. Damn, I should've gotten her number.” It doesn't happen. Shoe flattery is for one purpose one: flattery. Have I made my point?
There is one style of shoes that men notice, and that's high heels. But heels are more about what a girl looks like in them than about the shoes themselves. Heels make feet and legs look sexy. The classic example is a girl wearing high heels in a bikini. Cheesy, and not particularly functional in the sands of Miami and L.A., but men notice for sure.

Hair
Hair, on the other hand, is, sigh, one of the sexiest things about a woman. Hair grabs us and doesn't let us go. Think octopus tentacles. Your style, color and texture are no matter. Your hair only needs to have a clean, tousled, just-out-of-bed look. My opinion is that most women look sexier with longer hair than shorter. Men like long, sexy hair largely because we don't have it. Plus, very few women can get away with that short boyish look. Next time you're out in public, watch how men look at women with long hair versus short.
On a related note, hair salons suck. I can't believe what they've done to some of your mops. They're not just ruining your hair; they're wrecking your love life. With the Internet and a gazillion fashion magazines at your fingertips, you've got plenty of references. Please think sexy and spend the time and money to get the right do. When in doubt, turn to whichever celebrity women are getting the most attention for being sexy, and copy them. Messy sexy is what you should be after: think Sheryl Crow, Jessica Alba, Jane Seymour and Reese Witherspoon.
A few more tips: Don't color your hair based on the swatches you picked up at the paint store. Other styles to avoid include bad bangs, mullets and that “business in the front/party in the back” look. And stop cutting your hair short as you age—there's no need to.


Dresses
Every woman wears a dress differently. The only hard-and-fast rule is to pick a dress that accentuates your best body parts. Whether you have a gorgeous back, incredible thighs, or lovely collarbones, stock up on designs that not only fit but also highlight those attributes.
Your shape and height determine much of what you'll look good in, but here are some general rules of thumb:

Shorter Girls
1. Wear heels. Heels create the illusion of longer legs. And as I've said, they're sexy!
2. Buy a dress that vaguely clings, while still allowing your bum to move freely. Check out the red carpet “best dressed” lists for examples.

3. Loose cotton dresses are best if you have some pounds to shed. They give us a hint of your bum and legs without a solid picture. We have vivid imaginations and we fantasize you better-looking, not worse. (We're on your side here. Just give us something to work with!)

Taller Girls
1. Stand up straight, shoulders back, chest high.
2. Wear longer dresses that hug your legs a bit. You want a fitted design.
3. Pick either heels of flats, depending on how tall you want to appear.
4. Make sure that at least 60 percent of your skin is covered by the dress. You have a lot of skin, and a little goes a long way.
5. As with shorter girls, loose-fitting, sheer cotton dresses that cling a little are great for those of you carrying a bit of extra weight.

Tops and Bottoms
This is fairly straightforward: You need to have tops and bottoms in your closet that you have no doubt are “man killers.” Call it your “good luck resisting me” section. This is the part of the closet that houses the cleavage cuts, the tighty tops, and the bootylicious jeans. Feel free to mix and match from the more “domestic” side of your closet, but never forget: it's a jungle out there, and sometimes it pays to get a little wild if you want to survive.

Glasses
Glasses are hot! Hands down. Just make sure you pick a great style that flatters your face and keep the lenses free of eyelashes and finger prints. Chicks in glasses are cool.

36 comments:

La Reine said...

Interesting to know, 20 bucks says the dude that wrote that was white though. Twas the hair section that did him in.

Nonesuch said...

so does my glasses make me cool? interesting!

pamelastitch said...

LOL!!!!

who cares if he's white...

considering my hair is going off this week...na wa o....

:D

pamelastitch said...

quick question: can black people have messy sexy hair....

:D

Aijay said...

Babes did u read my mind or what?
The Mr & I had an argument about why I constantly splurge on expensive lingerie. He thinks there's no need for that cos he can't even tell the difference.
He says he understands splurging on a freak 'um dress but any kind of underwear is hot. Lol.(yeah right)
I tried to make him understand that its not for him to notice, it just makes me feel good.
The point is men don't get some things women do.
Sometimes we do these things, not necessarily to get their attention but cos it makes us feel good.
Then again, there are instances where some women do the wrong things in a bid to get a guy's attention. Unfortunately, they just end up looking silly.

Nne, okwa i ho ta ra ihe friend with benefits bu. Ok oh! Time will tell. Lol.

Aijay said...

Babes did u read my mind or what?
The Mr & I had an argument about why I constantly splurge on expensive lingerie. He thinks there's no need for that cos he can't even tell the difference.
He says he understands splurging on a freak 'um dress but any kind of underwear is hot. Lol.(yeah right)
I tried to make him understand that its not for him to notice, it just makes me feel good.
The point is men don't get some things women do.
Sometimes we do these things, not necessarily to get their attention but cos it makes us feel good.
Then again, there are instances where some women do the wrong things in a bid to get a guy's attention. Unfortunately, they just end up looking silly.

Nne, okwa i ho ta ra ihe friend with benefits bu. Ok oh! Time will tell. Lol.

Mommy said...

'Nne, ewu nwanyi oma!' Did I get that right? I did not even bother reading the article. I could not jare cos your pictures just kept slidding everywhere. I will go read the thing now but in the meantime, you are HOT girlfriend...*muah* :o)

Mommy said...

Chei! I meant 'iwu NOT ewu'. hehehehehehehehehehe

BOBBY said...

First time on your blog! Love it!

Obi said...

Hmmm….the man has a point in some of these…let’s see…

Lingerie: Yup, I prefer, either the “boyish” briefs or thong, thongs, THONGS..!!!
Shoes: Prefer women to be in “comfortable” shoes…the high heels are great, but walkin’ isn’t what’s on my mind when I visualize women in them.
Hair: Hmm…Sheryl Crow…Jessica Alba..?? Gimme a break…!!
Dresses: Heh heh…Should be tighter around the “better” parts..LOL..!!
Hieght: Shorter girls…make guys feel more macho when we tower over them; Taller girls..YEEAAH..!!!
Tops n Bottoms: Yup…I’m down with “man-killers” any day…
Glasses: Hmmm…anyway sha…they make the girl LOOK more “intelligent”…

All in all sha..I go give the guy pass mark…so, are women gonna adopt these instructions or what????

Manda said...

i was dragged down here to come see ur slide n read ur blog! e too long o! n my oga give me assignment so imma come read properly later


But me i like my heels o, anytime anyday n i cant afford to stay off da salon.

but ermm, does my glasses make me look hot? i doubt o!

Ugo Daniels said...

I love tall girls. Damn!!

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

I'm with la reine...If na Nija bobo, the list go change.
Oga Cyprus, how about you write a list for peopele, now?

30+ said...

Ok let me go and get hills sharpish, BTW I am hollering as promised I don update.

femme said...

heels.. check
glasses.. check
bafs.. check
lingerie ke?
i thought we are talking about the first meeting.
i think men like lingerie if they see it when they weren't supposed to.

catwalq said...

so they want caucasian hair, me in heels and a dress that shows off my assets?
ok
Princessa,how did u find this one sef?

Sisbee said...

I'm feeling him on the shoes- in a way, men hardly compliment shoes and yet we have millions of them, (which we commend each other for), infact I think women buy shoes for the benefit of other women and themselves. That withstanding, if a woman is wearing horrible shoes a man would still notice and in a way that could influence the look of the whole package.
Yeah, and long hair fits every kind of woman, that's why most Afro men like long braids....the tousled look for us doesn't always apply.....he could make do with a large tousled hair net if he fancies.

Afrobabe said...

Non of this works to be honest,otherwise why is that extremely good looking guy over there asking the babe wearing flipflops for her number instead of mine....in heels with everything checked...na lie jare...

Afrobabe said...

Love your pics,you are a lovely lady!

Omosewa said...

Nice write up. He didntmention perfumes, or did he. I need to do my hair sef. Lovely pishos babe, you're looking good!

Olamild said...

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

...toyintomato said...

oh babe, this post is long oh, i did not finish reading it.
but from what i read, this is true talk..hahah

Sparkle said...

I don't wear glasses..I never find the wone that fits me..I just can't find one!
..love d slide show

AN IBO DUDE'S CORNER said...

Relationship consultant

u try ooo

but they r not all true sha

most of them do not apply for naija people (i think)

princesa said...

@la reine, yea he is white but i think the tips are universal.

@nonesuch, depends on the type of glasses o!I hope urs makes u look interesting.

@pammy, considering that we have a lot of natural looking hair extentions now, i guess a sister can have messy sexy hair too.
Where is your hair going off to???

@aijay, girl if ur expensive lingerie makes you feel good, then keep it up o jare! Most babes splurge on such things cos of their men anyway. I guess the Mr is just being considerate, he wants you to save the money instead,lol.
That 'Friend with benefits' thing...A hota kwa m ya o!

Nyemoni said...

Yepa...You have researched deep into this abi? Gd abeg o!
NYEMONI was here...100907

Nyemoni said...

But if I could have a 9ja brova do this list, 9ja style....

princesa said...

@mommy, lol. Thanks dearie! You did get it right.

@bobby, thanks. I think you have been here before tho.

@obi, Thanks dear for ur detailed overview.(30+ no crucify me o!). Adopt urs or his???

@manda, na who drag you here??
U wear glasses??? havnt seen you in them so i cant tell dear.

@ugoD, Is dat all u can say dude?
We want ur two cents in detail joo!! See Obi for reference.

princesa said...

@solomonsydelle, just what i thought too. Oya Oga cyprus, respond!

@30+,LMAO! Girl u got me cracking up with ur update!!

@femme,thats a new angle "if they see it when they weren't supposed to" Now how do we do that??

@catwalq, i got it in my mail o!

@sisbee, lol@ tousled hair net! Now thats so so unsexy!!

princesa said...

@afrobabe, lol! lets just say some guys no sabi better thing o jare! Thanks too.

@omosewa,no dear...he didnt.Maybe perfumes dont rank that high in guys list. How far with the hair?

@olamild,hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm too. Whats ur own babes, no talking??

@TT, lol. I dey copy yo for long post na! Longest time girl.

@sparkle,you've got a cute face dear. Maybe you are not looking in the rigt places.

@anibodude, hmmm... where you dey?? U don land Naija?!?! Oya report here with my gift kia kia.

princesa said...

@nyemoni, haa! Ur birthday darling!! Am coming over to urs rightaway!!!

Queen of My Castle said...

I agree with some of these like the hair and lingerie bits. I personally love the tousled hair look. That's usually how I wear mine. Makes me feel sexier, so yes, Black women can rock it, too. Don't know about the dresses bit. I find most Black men like to visually trace the outline a nice derrière LOL

bighead said...

So you read all 294 pages. Thats plenty of hard work to get a man. We must be in vogue.

princesa said...

@castle queen, i agree with them too.

@bighead, i didnt o! Just the excerpt. Lol @ u guys been in vogue! U wish!!

Isi said...

time to upgrade my style! nice one!!

Teediva said...

hm, madame u fine. no need to rub it in with all those pix ahn ahn...lol.

meanwhile i've taken note of all the important aspects, and my heels are coming out in full force!