Monday, July 21, 2008

Womanizer or not?


Scenario…

You are a fine girl…
Walking down the road one day…
This fine car pulls up beside you…
The glass wounds down to reveal this fine dude behind the wheels…
He asks “Care for a lift baby?”
You hesitate for a moment, but then he really looks harmless so you say…
“Sure why not!”and get in…
You chat briefly as he drives on and you think “He’s not just a fine face sha”
Anywayz, you exchange numbers just before you get off…
He calls later and you talk for a while…
You start talking on the regular and become friends after a while…
Soon, he starts talking serious…
He wants marriage, all the works…
You wonder if he is really serious…
Or just looking to score…

Quick question for the ladies.
Can you take a man who offered you a lift seriously?
Wouldn’t you think that if he stopped to offer you a lift, he is probably a womanizer who picks up every fine lady he sees on the road and maybe when you get married to him, he’ll still keep up with his hobby of helping damsels in distress??

I mean, if he stopped for you, he could also stop for any other fine girl, abi?
Your take guys?

43 comments:

NikkiSab said...

OMG!!!!!! I AM 1ST. pop d champagne!!

NikkiSab said...

heehehhe!! i'm a party rider!!!! i am 2nd too.
I dont blive in entering lift. i too de fear talk more of to take dem serious. lol!!! i no fit o!!

hmm... shd i b 3rd too??

Writefreak said...

Hmmm...my sister i no dey accept lift o but i don't think the fact that a guy offered a lady a ride makes him a womaniser. There's this dude who gave me a ride years back, i left my office and was looking for a cab, he was going my way and we just chatted about business till we got to my area. I still see the guy once in a while and we say hi when we meet but he never said an indecent thing to me, he was just doing a nice deed...so honestly, onehas to judge by watching the individual's character closely...i've learnt it's never cool to generalise!

Tairebabs said...

I always feel uncomfortable about accepting lifts from guys (road side toasters i call them) but I don't think anything is wrong in taking one serious afterall what's the difference between a roadside toaster and a man that asks a woman out in a bar, club etc or one that friends keep introducing (do you know how many people the guy has submitted himself for introduction to..lol). Whats to say he does not ask women out in various places if you catch my drift.

BTW I enjoyed the delivery of your post.

LG said...

i stop doing taking lifts a long time ago, wen i heard dis 'gist' abt one gal turning into a tortoise as soon as she put leg inside one bobo car like dat,
me i luv my life too mush o lolllll
But erm... there r really harmless guys/ladies(yes na) who gives lifts just to help out esp wen they c pple stranded at busstops, dat doesnt qualify dem as woman-niser/man-nisers abi, lollll

babes how far na???
how many kiloS , u don drop
*wide grin*

30+ said...

I echo the three commenters above, offering lift does not equal womanising.

Free-flowing Florida said...

funny, i see nothing wrong with that. i've been a jam so many times & have begged & begged 4 a lift 4rm passer-bys & it's hurtful how cars after cars ignore me. it's like we no longer know how 2 help people out! i almost went out wit a guy who gave me a lift. well, actually, he did it cos he saw me carrying baggage upon baggage (am ur regular bag lady!) & he tot i needed help cos d rains were approaching. dat may b a diff scenario sha, but i was megaly impressed by dat! as 2 d situation u described, i won't hold anything against d dude. am just put it down 2 him being captivated by my irresistible beauty - yeah right!

how far, dear?

Zephi Fahrenheit said...

will it make a difference if he met you at a mall and then you'll be thinking "if he talked to me at the mall how many other girls does has he pick up at a mall"
or he met you at a party and you'll think.."so he goes to parties to pick girls up"..
Thats just paranoia..I wont indulge in it..I can meet him in church and he'll be a first class ashewo.lol
how u dey?

Lighty 'neferet' Kopearl said...

not neccesarily ohh. as it could av been u who made him bend his rule of not approaches ladies on the street.

u never know, it prolly was his first time, if he seem decent enuf why not.

after all u 2 are in the same position.
am sure he must have also thought that if u can accept his lift, wot stops u from accepting a lift from any other fine guy that stops to give u one?

onydchic said...

not to stereotype or anything, but every single guy that has offered me a ride has the word 'lech' dripping from their eyes. I usually ignore such folks...

Obi said...
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Obi said...

LMAO...I cant believe the answers I'm reading here...
You HAVE to meet the guys somewhere na..dont you..?? They dont drop from the sky...

Ok ok..Quick question for the guys.
Can you take a woman you gave a lift seriously?
Wouldn’t you think that if she accepted your offer, she is probably a playette who gets into every car on the road and maybe when you get married to her, she’ll still keep accepting "lifts" from "road-users"..??
Ok...stupid question..right...LOL..!!
Someone once asked me fi I could take someone I met in a nightclub or on the net seriously...my first thought was.."what the heck was I doing there in the first place???"

PS: Is THAT how you met him??

Afrobabe said...

I seem to be the only one who recieves lifts from fine young men...I dey enter unless I get bobo..

ok, I would take him serious otherwise it would be like rejecting everyman cos of something...it could be you met him in church and he proposed, will u feel he joined the church to propose to every woman???

OluwaDee said...

humm, this one has 2 sides.
U might have actually being in distress n he seeing you were in distress came 2 your rescue.

You might have been on d road n d guy looking 2 score picks you up.

I feel its left 4 d babe 2 decide.
seek divine revelation about the guy, so u can know his true nature.

Its easy 2 generalize n say, all guys who pick up girls r womanizers, that is so not true.

Allow d guy prove himself 2 you.

Everyone Loves a Naija Girl said...

I would take him seriously. Maybe not at first...but not all womanizers talk about marriage :-)

Naija Idol said...

yes o. me i can. ive accepted rides o but it was due to the condition(s).im with afrobabe on this 1.

Abbie said...

lol, can't really relate to this post, but Obi's comment tickled me.

ejura said...

I accept lifts every now and then. I've met good people that way. Some ladies have met their husbands that way too you knw. You shud meet my mom's friend's neice. She met her husband this way.
How body?

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BlogVille Idol said...

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Chari said...

Mehnn I dont know...buh mehn the dude doesnt sound serious minded to me o...

Princesa hope u never take lift or no lift forget our reunion?

normzo said...

Truthfully if i can give a cute girl a lift in my car, then i will give it to another cute one along the way, for fucks sake,its not that i fated to meet her on the road.
Am a guy i will give u a lift(girl)but can not promise that i will not be giving another girl a lift some days to come, thats just the way it is.

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Afrobabe said...

lmao @ chari...so if she dey take lift she no go fit concentrate on organizing get together abi...

princesa said...

@nikki,lol! We gat to celebrate girl. First time first! And second too! You for make am third na,lol!
@writefreak, good point babe.
@tairebabs, thanks dear. Point noted.
@LG, lol! Tortoise ke?? God forbad bad thing o. Dropping kilos…hmm…coughs….lol!
@30+, oh yea?
@flo, I loved ur angle to it.
@zephi, true, how you meet someone doesn’t necessarily determine the kind of person he/she is.
@lighty, hmmm…true true
@onydchic, lol! Why am I not surprised at ur comment dear?
@obi, lol! U silly dude!! You get point sha
@afro, lol! So if u get bobo, and u dey stranded for road, u no go accept lift? Dat one means say u go sleep for express na,lol!
@oluwadee,lol! Divine revelation like praying that God should reveal his real character to you enh? Hmmm…
@everyonelovesanaija girl, woah! Where did you crawl out from girl?? Welcome back o
@naijaodol, thanks for ur two kobo babe
@ejura, oh yea? She did? Does her hubby still pick babes on the road? Well how we go take know this one now?
@blogvilleidol, okay. Well done pinky!
@chari, lol! I fit?? I don call you tire o, u no dey see my missed calls ke?
@normzo, Ha! That was harsh o….anyway thanks for being truthful and welcome to mu blog.
@afro, no mind am joo. The boy too like party,lol!

Beyond said...

most def... i don't think yours was the first and do not believe yours will be the last

Ms. emmotions said...

hmmm, i will go with afrobabe on this one,

hello gal , how have u been ?

Jayjazzy said...

Nope, it dont mean he s a womaniser even though, if u werent attractive, he wouldnt dare pick u up even if it were raining cats and dogs

Uzezi said...

why can't you take him serious? u can meet him in any other way. some guys actually offer lifts, just because they wanna help, not because they want anything.

Afrobabe said...

ok, I dey receive lift bobo or no bobo after all bobo can be upgraded...

wellsbaba said...

well,I cant rily say ooo,im a guy n i knw its a 2way thing...its cud b his habbit to pick up scape goats(that usually is d scenario) but u neva can tell....he must've seen somtin he really liked n stopped4her well jst advice who ever it is that if she likes him let her jst play along but playsafe by not allowin him to score NOMATTER what he says plus she cud pray bout it!

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

i can understand where the hesitation to date a guy who gave you a lift comes from. However, it all depends on other factors. How does he carry himself? Does he give other indications that he is a womanizer? Has the lady met his friends and close family to get a feel for who he is?

We all have to meet our mate somewhere. For some, it will be through introductions and for others, it will be because the person gave you a lift.

Hope all is well with you, my sista.

pamela said...

Definitely not!! I do not want to end up being the isi ewu in someone's soup !

princesa said...

@beyond,mine? Am not talking about me here o

@ms.emmotions. been good love. YOU?

@jayjazzy, abi o! I never saw a man stop for an ugly babe yet,lol!

@uzezi, for real? we still got such good samaritans??

@afro, crazy gal,lmao!

@wells, i agree with ur comment dude.

@soloD, hmmm, nice point too. I am well dear.

@pammy, i trust you,lol!

Smaragd said...

i second Zephi totally!

[-V-] said...

you know him better than any of us.So u should judge this yourself.

rest i agree with obi.

Sting said...

Was it raining when he offered me the so called lift? If i was stranded and it was obvious he was just trying to help out, that's a different story. Anything other than that, i would assume he was a womanizer.

Parakeet said...

See me I believe one can meet a man anywhere and the manner in which you met is not enough to judge whether he will cheat or not. Take it from me most men are dogs some just chase more woman than others. So when you do decide to get married, please think less about whether he will cheat but more about how you will fit into each others lives. Leave the rest to God in prayers. Truth is when dating you will know what your man is capable of doing in that department.

princesa said...

@smaragd, okay
@(-v-), i dont know him o, i said before this is not about me.
@sting,, lol!
@parakeet, i agree where and how you meet a person doesnt necessarily determine if he'll cheat or not.

Doja said...

I am in a constant state of paranoia so I would definitely be avoiding any free rides from strange men. I guess people have to meet each other one way or the other.

princesa said...

@doja, yea i guess so too.

Jaguda said...

interesting post and i like the views submitted by different peeps. my view is that u can meet anyone anywhere anytime. for those that say they will never enter a car....pray u never get stranded. also it works both ways, the guy could think that of her as well, as in 'do u always enter everyone's car'?

miz-cynic said...

even me ....i give lifts....i think we women have let paranoia set in.... i still believe in the good of people and i believe 70% of young guys o, not aristo looking ones o wu gve lifts are just trying to be good samaritans....infact 70% of all the guys wu have given me lifts in my life did not even attempt to toast or even make conversation other than greeting and "is this ur stop?"...shikena.