Monday, December 1, 2008


You know your case has become critical when…

…during family morning prayer, it’s your mum’s turn to pray and she goes:

“Father God, King of kings and lord of lords.
I commit my daughter, princesa into your hands.
Father, this year shall not pass her by.
Before the first quarter of next year, she must be in her husband’s house.
Dear God, she has to make a choice from all these guys hovering around.
Her mates are in their husband’s house and her case will never be different.
Give her a man to call her own, this we pray through Jesus Christ, our lord.

AMEN!!!!!(A very loud chorus from the rest of the family)

God dem don give me deadline o, come and show yourself, lol!

On a serious note now.

My friends, I want to ask these questions...

Do I have to marry a man just because he is asking for my hand?

Don't I have a right to desire certain qualities in the man i'll call my husband?

Why can't people understand this?

Why do I have to be called, "Choosy' because I want what I want?

Afterall, if I didnt meet the man's desires in his future wife, he wouldn't even propose to me.

Abeg...I believe I also have the right to what I desire.



On another note, today's the first day of December which means Xmas is only 24 days away,Yipee...yay...yay!!!!

Dear friends, as we prepare for the celebrations and Xmas activities, let us not forget the reason for the season which is the marking of Our Lord's coming.
This letter says it all.

As you well know, we are getting closer to my birthday.

Every year there is a celebration in my honor and I know that this year the celebration will be repeated.
During this time there are many people shopping for gifts, there are many radio announcements, TV commercials, and in every part of the world everyone is talking that my birthday is getting closer and closer.
It is really very nice to know, that at least once a year, some people think of me. As you know, the celebration of my birthday began many years ago.
At first people seemed to understand and be thankful of all that I did for them, but in these times, no one seems to know the reason for the celebration.
Family and friends get together and have a lot of fun, but they don't understand the meaning of the celebration. I remember that last year there was a great feast in my honor. The dinner table was full ofdelicious foods, pastries, fruits, assorted nuts and chocolates. The decorations were exquisite and there were many, manybeautifully wrapped gifts.
But, do you want to know something? I wasn't invited. I was the guest of honor and they didn't remember to send me an invitation. The party was for me, but when that great day came, I was left outside, they closed the door in my face...and I wanted to be with them and share their table.
In truth, that didn't surprise me because in the last few years all close their doors to me.
Since I wasn't invited, I decided to enter the party without making any noise. I went in and stood in a corner. They were all drinking; there were some who were drunk and telling jokes and laughing at everything. They were having a grand time.
To top it all, this big fat man all dressed in red wearing a long whitebeard entered the room yelling Ho-Ho-Ho! He seemed drunk. He sat on thesofa and all the children ran to him, saying: "Santa Claus, Santa Claus" as if the party were in his honor!
At midnight all the people began to hug each other; I extended my arms waiting for someone to hug me and do you know no-one hugged me. Suddenly they all began to share gifts. They opened them one by one with great expectation. When all had been opened, I looked to see if, maybe,there was one for me.
What would you feel if on your birthday everybody shared gifts and you did not get one? I then understood that I was unwanted at that party and quietly left. Every year it gets worse. People only remember the gifts, the parties, toeat and drink, and nobody remembers me. I would like this Christmas that you allow me to enter into your life. I would like that you recognize the fact that almost two thousand years ago I came to this world to give my life for you, on the cross, to save you.
Today, I only want that you believe this with all your heart. I want to share something with you. As many didn't invite me to their party, I will have my own celebration, a grandiose party that no one has ever imagined, a spectacular party.
I'm still making thefinal I am sending out many invitations and there is an invitation for you. I want to know if you wish to attend and I will make a reservation for youand write your name with golden letters in my great guest book.
Only those on the guest list will be invited to the party. Those who don't answer the invite, will be left outside. Be prepared because when all is ready you will be part of my great party.
See you soon.

I Love you!


LG said...


LG said...

lolll' no be small thing o'
no worry jare....God's time

princesa said...

@LG, lol! E be like say u dey sleep for my page these days.
No be small thing jare my sista!

onydchic said...

Ah yes... the panic button has been pressed on your behalf. Never cave into pressure, my dear. A lot of people still strongly believe that the biggest achievement a woman can make is bagging a man, by any means necessary.

Take your time and get what you really really want.

musco said...

i understand how ur mum feels bt don't be pressurized.u shld strongly biliv in ur self & ur decision as per d right kind of guy u want.

i can smell d guy already ....i think i'm also designing d t-shirt bloggers are going to wear to ur wedding already 2(laughing?).

thanks 4 also reminding us of the true essence of xmas.

FFF said...

my dear, i understand how it feels. na only prayer ur mama dey pray sef. me, na husband d woman dey arrange one rejection after d other. some of my relatives said they came 4 my igba-nkwu just to see dis one dat i accepted to marry! i was like d chief 'choosy' of my family. am happy 2day i held out on d pressure. cos i would have been marrying someone else today & i may not b as happy in d union as i am now

miz-cynic said...

@princesa-no mind dem within tht range o and i'll wait till i find tghe flesh of my hope i'll know wen he comes along.

FFF said...

miz-cynic: no oh. ejike is not my husband oh. i keep saying it & screaming it. Ruffin it is FICTION!!!!! it's not my life. my husband is not in any way like Ejike.

kay-shawn said...

So what are those qualities you want in a man? Tell me what they are and I might have a candidate for you.

kay-shawn said...

So what are those qualities you want in a man? Tell me what they are and I might have a candidate for you.

darkelcee said...

God will sort you out dear.

but this 1st quarter of next year na wa. that mean you will meet the guy and marry him in less than 4 month? it is well

azuka said...

Lol. Let's also hope you propose to the man who has the qualities you like when the time comes round.

doll said...

yes o! take ur time and don’t let d pressures get 2u

princesa said...

@onydchic, thanks dear. Am taking my time.
@musco, ha ha ha ha wedding T-shirts for bloggers. You no serious! How far with the job hunt.
@FFF, thanks for the encouragement girl. My resove is even stronger.
@mizcynic,exactly! Its another thing to know him when he finally strolls along.
Ejike is not FFF's man o!
@FFF, lol! I see say u don do clarification post already.
@kay-shawn, you serious???
@darkel, my dear na so i see am o,lol! Anyway i think she wants me to pick one out of the current suitors. She doesn' even want me to wait for someone new,lol!
@azuka, why does it have to be me doing the proposing?
@doll, thanks dear

Jarrai said...

lol@your mums have to give her 100 percent for originality

When the right man comes..he will arrive with all the qualities you seek...God will deliver :)

ShonaVixen said...

hon take ur time, dont just take anything..

Olamild said...

hehehhehee mummy no go kill us with laffter o. You have a choice o jare. Na you go pick who you want and seek God's face and direction

I love the letter from Jesus
thanks for sharing.

dat one okrika said...

Chei, this is the EXACT prayer my mama pray for me this morning as i was leaving for Houston, then she anoint me with anointing oil.
Gods time sha.

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

in the fulness of time
all things will work out for good
Your husband will come
dont compromise on what you are looking for
but you have to be realsitic too
may your 'the one' hasten his footsteps towards you

Anonymous said...

Please dont compromise on anything that is of importance, like his character. But on things that will fade, you might be able to relax the rules a little. Goodluck dearie and I know yours will come as well. Humor is the best medicine for parents when they get like that.

bumight said...

that's what happens when you're too much of a babe. you can't choose!

maybe u should go in the cinderella direction: throw a ball, and the dude whose legs fi the glass slippers- i meant Ferragamos will be ur beau!

or just plain ol' go akissing frogs!

princesa said...

@Jarrai, yes she deserves an award,lol!
@shona, take anything ke? Never!
@olamild, thanks dear. You are welcome.
@okrika girl,lol! Mums!!!
@MissDM, I agree on being realistic. Amen to ur prayer!
@Temite, thanks babes.
@bumight,lmao!!! Which kain suggestions be dat now? Find me a husband jare,lol!

Standtall said...

No, u sure dont have to marry anyone cos they asked for your hand or because u r pressured.

You only can decide what you want. The power lies in you. Use it, know what you want


my friend stop being choosy and go and marry jo, all ur mates r in their husbands houses!!!! lol. dat prayer is one kain o!!! na by force??

Obi said...

In the end, everything happens just right and so wonder what all the wahala and anxiety was for in the first place..
And a Merry Christmas, peeps!!

princesa said...

@"standtall, i like that-"The power lies in my hands". Thanks babe.
@36,lol! Help me ask o!

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princesa said...

@obi, abi o...merry Xmas to u too!

Anonymous said...

@36: because they've carried you off now, you have mouth abi? lol.

hey, our parents do what they feel they must. but God's time is the best. :P

AlooFar said...

A BIG amen to your mum's prayer.

@ Musco - lol. Bloggers T-shirt at ur wedding.

QMoney said...

hi dear,i have almost gone blind looking for ur email addy on your page and i still didnt find it.
i didnt see d 1st comment as well,guess its cos its for my eyes email addy is send the addy to me.thanks

NaijaBabe said...

Parents!!!! LOL

Freaksho said...

first time here.just want to say, great playlist. and since when did brand managers write as good as copywriters??

Platinum Diva said...

I know exactly what you mean my dear, all I can say is that God’s time is the best…… At the same time you should, try and forget about what your parents are saying you’re the one that will live with the mistake God forbid you just go with whatever comes your way in order to make others happy. You can win unless you play my dear……

Isi said...

babes abeg, take time choose ur man. there's no competition in marriage...every one is running a lone race. u r doing the right thing waiting for wat u really want, dont settle for less.

i don miss u, how u dey?!

Aphrodite said...

Your mum is only being a mum. I dont blame her.

I hope God hears and answers her prayer.

Me self want do aso-ebi,lol...

Anonymous said...

wow....Americans here are not quite the same. It seems that our parents dont mind us staying with There are still 45 year old men still living in the mamas basement.

Take it easy, and choose your guy wisely.

princesa said...

@geisha, dont mind 36 jare,lol!
@aloofar, silly musco,lol!
@Qmoney, got my mail?
@naijababe, yes parents!
@freaksho, thanks for the compliment. I do some copywriting as well.
@platinum diva, thanks babes
@isi, i dey fine o. How u dey too? I miss u well well.
@aphro, no worry u go do aso-ebi very soon.
@kinshar, 45yrs living with their mum??? That na abomination for here o!

La Reine said...

Hey ma, God's time is the only time, so keep your head up.
No use settling to please others and winding up on a ship you want badly to jump out of.

Naija Idol said...

there's no rush. i think u shud settle down and choose the right on, not just cos he asked for ur hand in marriage but cos u want to spend d rest of ur life with him.

Buttercup said... everyone has said, it'll happen in God's time and no one else's..

wow that letter was food for thought..may God help us!

Olufunke said...

My sister, I understand what you are going through. and mummy too....we cannot blame her.
but dear, you have a right to desire, to love, to life!and to bliss
I can only say it would happen sooner, and you will be like 'men that dream' of Ps 126